Express Yourself

Express what you've got, b'coz if the right time is gone... you'll regret it.
If its happiness, share it.
If its sorrow, cry over it.
If its a joke, laugh at it.
If its defeat, learn from it.
If its love, say it.
If its a loss, confront it.
If its success, enjoy it.
If you are angry, yell at him.
If its an emotion, express it!



Do you often feel like your emotions are out of control? Do you fly off the handle at people who don't necessarily deserve it? Do you blow up over minor incidents? Do you find yourself wanting to cry over Anything ? Or maybe you're at the other extreme. Do you find it hard to get worked up over anything? Do you feel numb even though something upsetting has happened? Do you have every right to be furious, but you just don't feel anything? Are you cold in your responses, when a major reaction is expected out of you?

Experiencing and expressing emotions are integral parts of life. Yet, for many people, emotions remain mysterious, confusing, and difficult to express constructively. One should learn to incorporate emotions into your life in healthy ways, including how to express them in ways that are conducive to building healthy relationships.

For instance, in love its not always the diamond rings or the bed of roses. What you need is a big strong hand to lift you to a higher ground, Its that small hug/kiss which makes you feel special. Its the expression of love , expressing what you've got, whether ready or not... So you can respect yourself.

Another example is sorrow. Sorrow about a recent loss may evoke sadness from past losses. Rather than ignore or exaggerate your feelings, it is helpful to be able to take your feelings as they are, accept them, think about them, and learn from them.

Often feelings are more of interpretations of events more than to the events themselves. We see things the way we want to see them. Your interpretations can be made so rapidly and so automatically that you may not realize they are happening. Infact these interpretations or judgements are the culprits of the misunderstandings. So say what you feel, dont beat round the bush. Be direct, being straightforward may sound rude... but in the long run it helps. Theres nothing wrong in giving voice to the language of your heart, no harm in shedding tears or laughing at yourself.

Just as you have choices about how to interpret an event, you also have options about how to express those feelings you experience. For example, if a close friend is planning to move away, you may feel very sad about that. You have numerous ways of expressing this. For example, you can tell your friend how much you will miss him/her. Also, you can make a special effort to spend more time with him/her. These options may be painful at the time, but they give you the opportunity to express your feelings to your friend. On the other hand, you can avoid the friend until he/she leaves town so you won't have to say good-bye. Or you can stay busy making other friends so you won't miss this particular friend as much after he/she leaves. These choices may allow you to postpone or avoid painful feelings at the time, but they do not provide the opportunity for closure with your friend. The point is that you have options, and it's your decision.

Similarly, if its a great loss/defeat... be it studies, business, any game or even love. Try to confront it, share it and you'll find it easy to handle it. Dont worry about what the world will say. Today they'll mock, but tomorrow when they go through the same... the lesson will be learnt by them the harder way.

You maybe struggling with this process, like anyone else including me. Dont loose heart, be patient. Learning to experience and express your emotions is a life-long process. I'm still learning, just in 1st garde ;) are u even making an effort?